On Sunday we will encounter the Ten Commandments in Exodus 20. It is appropriate to reread this familiar passage during the Lenten season, because it reminds us of our call to live in harmony with God and others. The first four commandments focus upon our relationship to God and the how to honor Him. The final six give us parameters for honoring all those we engage throughout life (with number five serving a dual role: when we honor our parents we also learn how to honor God our Heavenly Father).
Often, as we read through this list, we find one or two that maybe we have not done quite as well at maintaining but feel as thought we are doing rather well in total. But, if we look beyond the strictly literal meanings, we may discover that we may not be doing as well as we think. For example, we may not have “killed” someone literally, but have we allowed anger to overwhelm us in such a way that it has brought on ill–will toward someone else? Perhaps our anger has even led to words or actions that ‘killed’ fellowship or relationship with another, which we have not restored. As we reread the Ten Commandments this week it provides us with a fresh opportunity to ‘take inventory’ of our own lives.
One way to help us further our walk with the Lord is by confessing the ways we have fallen short of His purposes for our lives in relationship to Him and others. Doing so helps us grow, because it removes those obstacles from our hearts and lives that prevent us from fully seeking after the Lord. However, the notion of confession and seeking out me or Fr. Greg to do so may seem daunting, or at least may raise questions!
The main question that arises is why do auricular confession? Do you have to come to me, or another priest, to receive forgiveness? No, you do not. In fact, you confess weekly in worship weekly corporately and you can always confess your sins before the Lord in your own heart. However, there are certain benefits in doing auricular, or private confession. Richard Foster in his book, The Celebration of Discipline, notes,
Though many of us, myself included, would feel highly uncomfortable with that form of confession, it does have certain advantages. First, the formalized form of printed confession does not allow for any excuses or extenuating circumstances. We must confess that we have sinned by our own fault…This is a Reality Therapy of the best sort since we are so prone to blame our sins on everybody and everything instead of taking personal responsibility for them.
A second advantage of the Confessional is that the word of forgiveness is expected and given in the absolution…The penitent is then told in clear, authoritative words that he is totally forgiven and set free of his sin. The assurance of forgiveness is sealed in the Spirit when it is spoken…
There is a third advantage to institutionalize Confession, namely, penance. If penance is viewed as a way of earning forgiveness, it is dangerous indeed. But if it is seen as an opportunity to pause a moment to consider the seriousness of our sin, then it has genuine merit…The purpose of penance is to help us move into that deeper sense of the sinfulness of sin (pp 148-148).
If you have never formally gone to confession consider taking the opportunity to do so this Lent. Come experience the freedom of laying your sins, guilt, and burdens before the Lord. It is not as scary as you may think, and it is actually quite a liberating practice. There is nothing that you may confess that will in any way scandalize me or Fr. Greg, or cause us to view you any differently. And, all you share is bound by the confessional, or strictly confidential. You may discover that once you ‘get it all out there’, and hear that you are forgiven, a weight is lifted from your shoulders. Many find renewed strength to move forward as they let go of past events, hurt, or guilt they have been carrying around with them.
If you’d like to afford yourself this opportunity, but do not know where to begin, I have some resources available. Some explain how confession works, while others ask questions for you to ponder in regard to your own life as you reflect upon the Ten Commandments in preparation for making your confession. As always, if you have questions feel free to contact me. I am available for confessions by appointment as needed, as is Fr. Greg. May God bless you as you seek to keep a Holy Lent.
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